How To Be Happy During Challenging Times

When I was in Istanbul, Turkey back in September, I heard Harvard lecturer and Good Think CEO Shawn Achor give his presentation focusing on research around happiness. This was fascinating, filled with humor, and centered on the power of happiness can spread and lead to more productive workers. Sharing this now seems very appropriate, given that half the voters out there are not very happy about the outcome of the election. I myself feel like capitalism has been pushed aside in favor of a bigger, more controlling government. I believe economic growth and jobs come from entrepreneurs, and big government only gets in their way, so this doesn’t motivate me to do a happy dance. So how can we all increase our happiness during challenging times?

Shawn has written a book called “The Happiness Advantage,” and it explains that our problems with happiness come from our thinking that we will be happy when we get to a certain outcome or level of success. Therefore, any victories or accomplishments get pushed down the road and delay happiness. The problem is that when we get there, the level of success is reset and increased. This leaves us with a feeling of not ever getting to that happy place, so what are we to do?


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Our brains work better when we are positive and function less efficiently when we are neutral or negative. We also have increased intelligence and creativity when we are positive. As empathic beings, when we share a smile it is contagious the same way a frown or depression can be.

How do we become happier, and what can we do to increase happiness among those around us? Shawn shared 6 key areas on simple ways to change your happiness:

  • Gratitude – write five things that you are grateful for each morning. This refocuses your brain and opens up your awareness to look for the happy things in life.
  • Journaling – spend three minutes each day for thirty days writing about a positive experience. This has been shown to decrease doctor visits by 50%. You become more social, and your immune system improves.
  • Simplifying vs Multitasking – do one thing at a time. This is what we are built to do. Multitasking increases stress, which eats away at every organ in our body.
  • Utilizing Strengths – discover and focus on your strengths. This gives you high levels of energy and productivity with low levels of success.
  • Exercising – work out. This is as powerful an antidepressant as the pills, and it releases dopamine in the brain, which cause positive and uplifting feelings.
  • Meditation – relax and just watch your breath go in and out. It changes the way your brain structures itself and changes its electrical impulses. This allows a more balanced and positive feeling.

Shawn also discussed the activation energy that you use to get an activity to really kick in and become a habit. He wanted to play the guitar more but found that having to go into the closet and get it out deterred him. He reduced his activation energy (initial investment of energy necessary to accomplish a task) by placing the guitar in the middle of room. He then played for 28 out of 30 days.

What activity do you want to do to be happier? How are you going to reduce your activation energy and get it done?




A Better Version of Myself

I have returned home from my EO adventure in Istanbul, Turkey. What an amazing time with 800 entrepreneurs from 91 EO chapters in 39 countries around the world! We heard many interesting speakers, including the Turkish Prime Minister Tayyip Erdogan, who sent a recorded message for us. He told us about their country’s openness to trade and commerce. They are the fastest growing G-20 nation at 8.5%.

The city of Istanbul has 16 to 18 million people in a nation of 75 million, so the streets are very congested, which made it slow for us to get around. This worked out well because the city was beautiful, and there was so much to see. They had two key bridges that changed colors at night. It was an amazing site!

 

 

Matthew Kelly, the author of “The Dream Manager,” was the opening and closing speaker. He had us think about what we wanted out of the conference and asked us to write down our biggest challenge and greatest opportunity, so we could get our wheels spinning as the speakers shared ideas. His constant reminder that you are working to be a higher version of yourself really stuck with me. When we are striving for that, we find peace in who we are.

He discussed that entrepreneurs do what they do because the future can be bigger than the past. This struck me as something that is so true. We will sacrifice now and take the risk of the unknown because that burning desire in our gut tells us it is the best thing to do for a better future. He was inspiring and right on with his key points.

Another great speaker, Doc Hendley, rocked the house from a “do good and change the world” type of way. Doc started out as a bartender, but he woke up one day with this message in his head of Wine to Water. He started researching water and discovered that more people die from lack of clean drinking water than from any other cause. This hit home for me because my favorite charity is CharityWater, which I wrote about recently (see more here). He told his story of going to the worst places on the planet and helping change lives for others, while he almost lost his. Check out this short video on Doc here.

This presentation was so powerful and touching that it allowed over $55,000 to be raised for Wine to Water within one hour after his talk. Interestingly, Doc lives just over the mountains from us in Boone, NC. Fellow EO-er Kirk Finnerty and I are going to work hard to bring Doc to Knoxville and hold a big EO community event here for support Wine to Water.

There were many other talks including “The Happiness Advantage,” the spiritual talk by Dandapani, or the talks by current EO They all inspired me want to dig deeper, search out, and work each day in some small way of being the highest version of myself. members who have risen up from incredibly tough life challenges. They all provided examples or further knowledge of how to strive to be the highest version of yourself. It was an amazing EO University that filled me up in many ways from all sides.

They all inspired me want to dig deeper, search out, and work each day in some small way of being the highest version of myself.